This story, Some Of The Dangerous Words You Must Not Use On Your Spouse During Misunderstandings – Part 1, is the first in the series. The remaining two parts would be publish within two days intervals after this.
No matter how matured, how handsome or beautiful, how educated, how highly travelled, how rich, how religious, and how compatible a man and his wife may be, they are most likely to have misunderstandings in the course of their marriage. Apostle Paul pointed this out in the Bible when he said that those who marry will have trouble in their marriage.
When some couples disagree on certain issues and end up quarrelling, some of them, in a fit of anger, say things that shouldn’t be mentioned to someone that they claim to love or call their spouse. They say things that have the potency to lead to separation, divorce, poisoning and even murder.
My aim of writing this article, therefore, is to point out and show you some dangerous words you must not say to your spouse during misunderstanding, no matter how angry or annoyed you may be. I’ll do that by sharing, with you, some stories that contain those dynamites.
Story #1
A young married man had a misunderstanding with his wife some time ago. During that disagreement, his wife flew off her handle and said: “Do you think you’re the father of our children?”
The guy was very shocked and upset by those biting words, but pretended as nothing had happened. The next morning, the angry man simply picked a few of his belongings in his car and disappeared, without notifying his wife or giving her a sign that he would not return soon.
After the first, second, and third day without him returning home nor picking his wife’s calls, his wife became worried and frustrated. This led him to report the matter to the police, her parents and her relations and to her husband’s parents and relations.
As her desperation to find and get back her husband, one of her elder sisters advised her to take her case to Prophet T.B. Joshua of the Synagogue Church of All Nations, SCOAN, in Lagos. Like many people who had been to SCOAN, she was reluctant to do so.
“What would my pastor and other people say,” asked the troubled woman, “when they hear that I went to SCOAN?”
But when the matter became more unbearable to her, she reluctantly took a visit to SCOAN. She was accompanied there by her elder sister, who recommended the place to her.
While the church service was going on at SCOAN that day, Prophet T.B. Joshua pointed his finger towards a certain direction and said: “There’s a woman whose husband has just disappeared from home some days ago, and who has come here to know the whereabouts of her husband. Your name is… (name withheld), and you’re putting on a navy-blue dress with white spots. Please, come out here so that God can tell you wherever your husband is and how you can get him back.”
The man of God had barely finished saying that when the worried young woman sprang on her feet and sped to the front of the altar.
“Pastor,” said the woman as she came out, “I am the woman you’re referring to. My husband left home some days ago without informing me where he was going to or when he would return.”
“Why do you want to know the whereabouts of your husband when you’re the one responsible for his disappearance? You had a misunderstanding with him and you asked him whether he was sure he was the father of your children.
“Why should you say such a thing to a man you call your husband and expect him not to do what he did? Is that not enough for him to disappear from home and even commit suicide? I am asking you?”
“You people must beware of what you say to your spouse whenever you’re having a misunderstanding with him or her. There must be a limit to what you say in such a situation, no matter how provoked or angry you may be.”
The second part of this story, Some Of The Dangerous Words You Must Not Use On Your Spouse During Misunderstandings – Part 1, would be published on this blog next Wednesday, June 5, 2019. Keep a date with me then.
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…to be continued
