This story, How To Know That Your Relationships Is About To Crash – Part 2, is the last part in the two-part series.
Couples experience challenge for two major reasons. One, because they are imperfect beings; and two, because of the differences in their mental and emotional makeup and upbringing.
In other words, no matter how well-matched a couple could seem to be, they differ in their emotional makeup, childhood experience, as well as in family background. These are exactly some of the factors that make challenges inevitable in every marriage.
It is therefore not out of place for couples to experience a conflict in their marriage. What is wrong, however, is when they allow such anomaly to tear them apart.
Consequently, frequent and intense disputes, among couples, should not be dismissed as normal. Experts have noted that pattern of quarrelling increases the likelihood that a couple will eventually divorce.
What sometimes worries me is that some couples oftentimes do not know when a challenge is dragging or pushing their relationship to a brick wall. The funny thing about such couples is that marriage break-up is always preceded by a sign or signs, yet they do not recognize them until it is too late.
Warning signs that precede marriage disaster are many and differ from marriage to marriage. This means that the warning signs for Mr. A and his wife may not be the same as that of Mr. B. and his wife.
Despite the differences between those warnings, some of them are very common to most marriages. It is those common ones that I am about to share with you here.
1. Incessant argument during which your partner heaps barrage of criticisms or insults and makes threatening remarks about you, your family or friends, either when you’re alone or when you are with others;
2. When your partner engages in harsh, bitter and hurtful speech and says things that may have emotional scars that linger long after the dispute between the two of you has ended;
3. When he or she yells at you, pushes or shoves or fights you and turns your marriage from being romantic into being characterized by verbal and physical abuse combined;
4. When he or she begins to display sentiment towards you by ignoring your wishes and feelings;
5. When he or she tries to control every aspect of your life, insisting on knowing your whereabouts at all times, even when it is obvious to him or her that you’re in the church, for example;
6. When he or she decides to be in-charge of making decisions for you and the entire family all the time and on every issue;
7. When he or she tries to stop you from going to your place of worship, especially to church, to worship Jehovah;
8. When you can hardly do anything without worrying whether it might in some way irritate him or her;
9. When he or she chooses to become adulterous just to stir your anger;
10. When he or she deliberately refuses to grant you your right to sex; and
11. When he or she no longer sees anything good in what you do.
Whenever you begin to notice some of these warning signs in your marriage, know that your marriage is about to hit the rock.
NB: Don’t forget to check out Part 1 of this article, How To Know That Your Relationship Is About To Crash – Part 2. Watch out for my story on how you can prevent your relationship from crashing.
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