This story, Some Of The Dangerous Words You Must Not Use On Your Spouse During Misunderstandings – Part 3, is the last in the series. The first and the second parts of it were published last Monday and Wednesday, respectively. Do yourself a favour by reading them.
Story #4
The two characters that are involved in this third and final story are a young guy called Jelili and his wife, Ronke. While Jelili was the grandson of a renowned late industrialist, Ronke was the daughter of peasant farmers.
Each time misunderstanding broke out between them, Jelili would remind Ronke of her very poor background and how he picked her from the gutter and cleaned her up to make her a big girl. Ronke was always upset by this form of mockery, but there was nothing she could do about it, especially when she had no good home to return and nobody to complain to.
After one of such incidents, Ronke decided to commit suicide one night. She did that by eating a slice of bread she soaked in Sniper. The suicide note she left behind read: “You humiliated me so much because my family and I were so poor. I have been enduring this for years and I cannot endure it any more. Let me go and allow you to enjoy your wealth. Good night, darling.”
Story #5
Charles has a wife called Mercy, a former contributor to Naija Tips Blog. Both of them have five daughters, who are between the ages of 16 and 10.
Like every other couple, Charles and Mercy usually have their own misunderstanding. Surprisingly, the misunderstanding between them is usually caused by Charles, who usually taunt her with: “I’m just tired of you and plenty female children and no boy.”
While your mates have both male and female children for their husbands, you’re busy here increasing in size and producing only female children for me, without even a boy to take over from me when I die.”
Whenever Charles says this, Mercy would break down in torrential tears. The only thing she usually say, whenever this happens and whenever she has the strength to do so, is: “Darling, don’t lose hope in God. In His own time, He would give us a son or sons.”
As you read this story, Mercy has started developing hypertension and depression, as a result of the pitiable situation that her husband has pushed her into. I pray that God, in His infinite mercies, would grant her her heart desire, with a view to settling the issue between her and her husband.
Amen.
From the five stories I’ve just shared with you above, it is clear to you that wrong words can do what gun or other weapons of death can do. True or false?
1. So, if you’re a woman, never you taunt your husband with the paternity of your children, especially when you know that he’s the real father of your child/children;
2. As a woman, never you call your husband an Okobo or an impotent man, even if, within you, you know that to be his situation;
3. As a man or woman, never you call or describe your spouse as short, fat, skinny or ugly, among others; whether in his/her presence or in his/her absence. After all, nobody forced him or her on you;
4. Never you remind your spouse of his or her poor academic background, even if that is the case. After all, not all married educated people are good husbands or wives;
5. Never you remind or taunt your spouse with his or her poor financial situation or that of his/her extended family;
6. As a man, never you mock your wife for not giving you a child at all or for not giving you children of a particular sex, knowing full well that it is God who has the final say on most issues of our lives, including procreation;
Try as much as possible to avoid outbursts of anger, nagging, and harsh critical comments whenever you have a misunderstanding with your spouse. They are a brand of explosives waiting to explode, except if detonated beforehand.
Above all, God loves kind words and hates their opposites. – Ephesians 4:31, 32; Proverbs 15:1; 20:3; 21:9; 31:26, 28
THE END.
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