There are many reasons a man may marry a woman or a woman may marry a man. For me, I married my wife mainly because of the love I have for her.
Are you married? If yes, what is the reason that inspired you to marry your spouse? If you’re yet to marry, for what reason or reasons would you marry your future wife or husband?
I am not against any man marrying a woman for the best reason known to him, vice versa. As a matter of fact, everybody has the right to marry whoever he or she chooses to marry and for whatever reason that pleases him or her, provided that would guarantee him or her peace and happiness.
However, there’s a very dangerous reason, which I feel and strongly advise that no man or woman should consider or think of when thinking or deciding who to marry. Can you guess what the wrong reason to marry is?
That reason is simply ‘sympathy.’ In other words, never you marry a man or a woman out of sympathy.
Did you understand this advice? In case you didn’t, the story of a young man named Ifeanyi and his wife, Sophie, which I am about to share with you, would explain to you fully, the meaning of ‘sympathy marriage,’ the wrong reason to marry.
Ifeanyi left his village in 1995, immediately after his secondary education, for Lagos, in search of the proverbial Golden Fleece. While in Lagos, he lived with his mother’s younger brother, Anselm, at a remote village called Shibiri, near Ajangbadi.
Anselm, at that time, was living in a one-room apartment as a bachelor when Ifeanyi joined him. Despite that poor condition, both of them lived happily like brothers, without any form of misunderstanding.
Misunderstanding however, crept into their brotherly relationship when Anselm fell in love with a girl named Chikodi. Because of this, Ifeanyi never liked Chikodi.
Chikodi was always fond of visiting Anselm almost every blessed day. And any time she visited him, including at night, Ifeanyi, would be asked by Anselm to stay outside the house until she had gone home.
On the days she slept over the night, Ifeanyi would be forced to sleep at a corner of the corridor of their apartment, at the mercy of ferocious mosquitos. That kept Ifeanyi complaining and cursing the day his uncle met Chikodi.
The situation worsened for Ifeanyi when his uncle finally married Chikodi. It was the final nail on the coffin of his hope and joy. Things totally fell apart because the presence of the woman caused him more and more inconveniences.
While Anselm was away to work one day, his wife, Chikodi, summoned Ifeanyi to a brief meeting in their house. Her purpose of inviting him into the house was for her to issue him with a ‘quit notice.’
“I couldn’t believe my ears that day,” recalled Ifeanyi, “when a small girl that met me in the house ordered me to start looking for alternative accommodation, with a view to leaving the house for her and her boyfriend. My ears were literally tingled by that news, but I decided not to react the way I should have until my uncle returned.
…to be continued next week
