The Dangerous Side of Some Beautiful Women

“If you want to hear more about toxic behaviours in relationships, simply visit or take a walk to a place where women gather in large numbers, such as women’s beauty and hair salons, and listen to them gossip about it.”

This statement, made by a former female journalist colleague of mine, several years ago, is still valid to date based on my recent discovery at a popular high-brow hair salon, where I accompanied my fiancé to go and make her hair.

My fiancé and I met seven other good-looking women, excluding the three female attendants, when we arrive at the cozy and fully airconditioned salon.

While six of the women were being attended to, the seventh woman was busy watching a soap opera on one of the large television screens that adorned the purple-and-grey wall of the salon.

As my fiancé and I were drinking the soft drink offered to us by the owner of the salon, one of the women, who was waiting in the dryer for her hair to dry, turned to the woman beside her and asked: “Why are some men so wicked that once they succeed in sleeping with you, they would just dump you like refuse and abscond?” 

She had hardly finished initiating that conversation when the woman she asked the question responded with: “No man can do that to me without having a sour taste in his mouth, because I’ll make sure I pay him back in his own coin, no matter how tough he may be.”

As soon as the woman was through with her response, another woman cut in and said: “You’ve spoken my mind. A man tried that rubbish with me, some time ago, and I ordered some bad boys to go and beat him up like a baby.

“If he or any other man tries that nonsense on me again, he may not live to tell the story, because I’ll make sure I send him to his “six feet,” where he would not have another opportunity to toy with my emotion again,” she concluded.

In case you don’t know what “six feet” means, it proverbially stands for ‘grave.’

The third woman who was involved in that dirty conversation shocked me the most when she said: “I don’t like sending such straight to their “six feet.  Rather, I prefer putting them in a condition that they would prefer to die than to live.”

That blood-curdling conversation on revenge tactics in relationships was concluded by the woman who was watching a soap opera on television.

“I begged my husband, a few days ago,” she disclosed as she told a story of what transpired between her and her husband, “for some money to pay for my airfare ticket to attend the burial ceremony of the mother of one of my friends, but he refused bluntly, saying that he had no money to spare me for that purpose.

“Following his refusal, I stopped talking to him, even though we still lived under the same roof.

“Two days’ later, he fell into my trap when he needed my help, but did not know how to tell me about it. 

“Not wanting to be the first to break the silence between us, he decided to leave a message, saying: ‘I’ll be travelling for a meeting at our head office tomorrow morning.  My flight is billed to leave the airport by 7.35 A.M.  In case I do not wake up before 4.30 or 5:0 AM, please, do me a favour and wake me.’

“I saw the message on a piece of paper on our dining table, a few minutes after he left it, and I left it there untouched.

“I woke up at exactly the time he wanted me to wake him, but instead of waking him up, I simply went to the dining table and left my own message for him, which read: ‘Wake up, it is 4.30 AM.’

“When he woke up at 8.33 AM and discovered that he had missed his flight, he looked up towards heaven, shook his head, and screamed: ‘Oh, my God, I have just missed the opportunity to secure a million-dollar contract.’

“With that anger and frustration, he started pacing back and forth in our sitting room.

“While he was doing that, I was laughing and watching him through the keyhole in my bedroom door.

“He became angrier when he got to the dining table, where he left a message for me, and saw my own message.

“After that, he went to his room and sat down, thinking of what had befallen him.”

My fiancé did not make any contribution to hair salon conversations, maybe because I was there.

I was utterly shocked and disgusted to hear beautiful and educated women, with good command of English, express their toxic behaviours in relationships in public.

If I were to write a script for a YouTube video based on my experience of that day, I would entitle it: “The Dangerous Side of Some Beautiful Women.”

That brings us to the question, “How do we help to improve dating experiences and overcome those courtship and marriage challenges expressed by those women, with a view to maintaining healthy relationships?”

If you have a clue on how we can overcome such ill feelings in relationships, please, drop it in the comment box below, and I’ll share it with other readers and visitors to this blog, for them to learn from.

The Dangerous Side of Some Beautiful Women. THE END.

By Anslem I. John

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