6 Major Dangers Of Breach Of A Marriage Promise: A Cataclysmic Timed-Bomb.
This article was written specifically to help those who make marriage promises that they never keep. Those who make marriage promises that they are not sure to fulfill or that they know, in their hearts of heart, that they are not willing to fulfill.
Are you one of them? Have you ever disappointed somebody in marriage before?
Wait a minute!
I am not trying to judge you. I am just trying to know, if per adventure you are one, to enable me know how to help you.
If you’re one of those people, then, this is an opportunity for you realize your mistake, and possibly, turn a new leaf.
Read on!
Almost every blessed day, especially these days, you would hear, read and find stories of failed love-relationships on almost every social media platform, as well as in the mainstream media.
This ugly and dangerous development of making a marriage promise and not fulfilling it has been around with us since time immemorial, but has now assumed an alarming and worrisome dimension.
It is characterized by complaints of heartbreaks, counter-heartbreaks, jilting, dumping, among others, especially from those who lost their relationships. Apart these these biting complaints, there’s a more dangerous part to it: the attitude of resorting to vendetta by losers of marriage promise.
How does it work?
The dictionary meaning of the word ‘vendetta’ is: feud against somebody or a long argument or disagreement in which one person or group does or says things to harm another.
It therefore works when someone who was disappointed in marriage goes all out to punish or do something funny to maim or harm the person who disappointed him/her.
Unfortunately, this has become a common phenomenon everywhere you go, today. This has been keeping me wondering and asking, anybody who cares to listen to me, two simple questions.
One, “Why must somebody who’s not sure of him- or herself make a marriage promise to another person when he or she knows full well that he/she is not sure or willing to fulfill it?
And two, “Why should somebody go to the extent of doing something funny to maim, harm or even kill another human-being just because he/she was disappointed in marriage?”
Whatever may be the answers to these questions, I would like to advise both those make hasty and fake marriage promises and those who are disappointed in that process to apply caution.
While the fake marriage promise-makers should refrain from making promises that they cannot keep, those whose marriage promises are breached should remember that there’s a just God, who’s always there to fight for a just person
That said, I am going to limit myself here to the dangers of breaching a marriage promise. Next time I’ll write on why those who are disappointed in marriage should not resort to doing evil in order to take a revenge on those who caused them heartbreak.
The question now is: what are the dangers of breaching a marriage promise and why should people who are engaged it desist from doing it?
There are six (6) major reasons a man or a woman must not make a marriage that he or she is not sure to fulfill, hence the title, 6 Major Dangers Of Breach Of A Marriage Promise: A Cataclysmic Timed-Bomb. They are:
1. Public Embarrassment
Some years ago, a young man in Benin-City, Nigeria, promised a young woman marriage while they were in courtship. Along the line, the young man met and fell in love with another woman and dumped his first love.
As the young man was making plans to wed his new woman, news got to his first woman, who had been nursing her loss. She was informed of the date of the wedding, the name of the Catholic church where the wedding was to take place and the time of the wedding.
On that day, the disappointed woman dressed gorgeously and went to the church, as if she was invited. While there, she found a good corner and hid herself, waiting to execute her mission.
Immediately after the church service commenced, the woman walked boldly towards the direction of the altar. On getting there, she raised her finger in front of the officiating reverend Father, without saying a word, signifying that she had something very important to say.
In order not to cause more scene at the place, the reverend Father reluctantly asked one of his assistants to give her the microphone.
As every member of the congregation was looking at one another in readiness to listen to what the woman had to say, the angry woman cleared her throat and said: “The groom in this wedding was my fiancée. He disappointed and dumped me a few months ago without giving me a cogent reason for his action. And now he’s here to wed another woman. Please, don’t wed them, otherwise…”
The woman succeeded in making sure that the wedding did not hold that very day.
I know you can relate with this story because it has been used, on different occasions, to act different movies in Nigeria’s Nollywood.
2. Casting Of Spell
A young woman promised a man woman marriage some years ago. She made that promise because she wanted the man to sponsor her education to secondary and university levels.
Coincidentally, both of them hailed from the same village in the South-eastern part of Nigeria.
While the woman was about to conclude her university education, under the sponsorship of the man, she met another man whom she loved more than the man who sponsored her education.
She didn’t know how to break the news of her change of mind to her sponsor at first. It took her time to summon the courage to do so. And when she finally did, she hit the nail of the head and promised to repay her sponsor all that he had spent on her.
Her sponsor was very disappointed to hear such bad news. It was a very sad and bitter experience that he might not never forget for life.
To cut the long story short, the aggrieved sponsor later consulted a witch doctor to help him prepare a spell which he planned to use on his former ungrateful fiancé.
The purpose of the spell was to make sure that his former fiancee never get to have a baby in her marriage, even though she married ten different men, one after the other.
While the disappointed man is now married and has five children; three boys, two girls, the woman who disappointed him is yet to have a baby after 16 years of marriage, courtesy of the charm.
I pray that God would intervene in her case, as well as forgive her foolhardiness and that of her former fiance. Amen.
3. Physical Attack And Assault
Not too long ago in Nigeria, a 25-year-old woman whose name was given as Victoria Alonge was sentenced to one-year in jail by a senior magistrate court in Abuja, Nigeria, without an option of fine.
This was after she admitted to the court that she committed the offence. Her offence: She was poured hot oil on her boyfriend named Roland Nna, who breached the marriage promise he made to her.
The prosecutor told the court that Victoria went to Roland’s house at about 4:30 a.m. on the fateful day and poured hot oil on him while he was asleep, resulting in grievous injury…
While in detention, Victoria threatened to inflict more harm on Roland. This prompted the prosecutor to recommend to the court to summarily punish her because she did not show any form of remorselessness.
In her defence, Victoria told the court that her estranged lover dated her for over four years and promised to marry her, only for him to change his mind after falling in love with another woman in Abuja.
“I did that to teach him a bitter lesson,” confessed Victoria, “because he refused to marry me after dating me for over four years. “He fooled me and my parents and ditched me after finding a new lover here in Abuja. I live in Lagos with my parents.”
You can read more of Victoria Alonge’s story in the Guardian newspapers.
I feel for Roland and sympathize with him, but I must point out here that this is one of the reactions we normally see among people whose marriage promises are breached.
This is also why those who make marriage promises that they cannot fulfill must desist from such practice.
4. Remote Invocation Of The Spirit Of Madness
Medical experts, at different fora, have always maintained that they are not too sure of the main cause of madness. They believe that a plethora of factors could be responsible for it.
However, I wish to state here that one of the major causes of madness, especially in Africa, Nigeria inclusive, is remote invocation of the spirit of madness by aggrieved persons. I’ll explain this with a short story.
A young Nigerian named Nicholas had a girlfriend named Patricia before he left Nigeria a few years ago to hustle in Malaysia. Before he travelled to Malaysia, he and Patricia had agreed to marry each other.
After about three years in Malaysia, Nicho, as he was fondly called by Patricia and other of his admirers, started making money for himself. With that success, he started building a beautiful bungalow for his father in their village in Nigeria.
When it was time for him to get married, he called Patricia on phone from his base in Malaysia and told her that it may not be possible or him to marry her again. The reason he gave her was that his mother wanted him to marry a girl from their village.
He however, promised to give Patricia some money to establish a business of her choice, while waiting for her own right partner to come her way.
Patricia was very sad about the whole thing. She refused Nicho’s offer, even when he sent people to go and plead with her.
Nicholas eventually married the other woman named Ifeoma, instead of Patricia. Patricia learnt about this but did not react openly about it.
All she did was to make sure that Nicho did not live to enjoy his marriage and his money. She achieved this by making him mad through remote means.
She denied having hands in Nicho’s lunacy, but was later confirmed to be the one responsible for it by a prophet of God based in Asaba, the capital of Delta State.
5. Outright Death
Some people are very deadly in nature. They find it difficult to forgive people who offend them. They believe so much in tit-for-tat and an eye for an eye.
A good example of such people is a young woman called Mabel, whose story I’m about to share with you.
Mabel and a young man called Churchill dated each other for more than two years. While their courtship was going on, they promised to marry each other.
Before they could get married, Churchill had secured a visa to travel to Canada. After discussing the good news with Mabel, both of them agreed that Churchill should travel to Canada for the purpose of preparing a good home for their future family.
After a few months in Canada, Churchill started sending money back home to his parents and to his fiancé, Mabel. Mabel was happy about the development because it gave her the hope that she would soon join her would-be husband in Canada.
As Mabel was expecting Churchill to send for her or to come back to Nigeria and take her to Canada, a close confidant of her told her that Churchill was planning to visit Nigeria for the purpose of marrying another Nigerian woman who lived in Lagos as Mabel.
Not long after that tip-off, Churchill visited Nigeria to marry the other woman and take her to Canada. Unfortunately for him, he didn’t know that his plan had been leaked to Mabel.
While he was putting finishing touches to his plan of marrying the other woman, without informing Mabel, Mabel hired some bad boys and paid them to kill Churchill, and that was the end of Churchill and his Canadian dream.
6. Divine Punishment
“When you make a vow to God, do not delay in fulfilling it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfil your vow. It is better not to vow than to make a vow ad not fulfill it.”
This is a popular and self-explanatory passage from the Holy Bible. It is contained in the book of Ecclesiastes, Chapter 5, verses 4 and 5.
As explicit as this Bible verse is, some people still make a vow which they know, full well, that they cannot or will not fulfill.
Anybody who makes a marriage vow that he or she will not or cannot full is a liar. He or she is also, according to the Bible, a fool, a big one for that matter.
And because God takes no pleasure in fools and in liars, such person is sure to reap the wrath of God, except there’s a genuine repentance before then.
My Final Word on 6 Major Dangers Of Breach Of A Marriage Promise: A Cataclysmic Timed-Bomb.
I would like to conclude this article, 6 Major Dangers Of Breach Of A Marriage Promise: A Cataclysmic Timed-Bomb, with an advice. The advice, which is directed specifically to men and women who are not yet married, is based on my own personal experience.
When I was growing up, I never promised any woman a fake marriage. God really helped me from making such a fatal mistake. The only woman I promised marriage was the woman I married; my wife, Victoria (not Victoria Alonge mentioned above.)
Another thing that helped me from making such a regrettable mistake was my late maternal grandmother, Mrs. Warri Emily Chiejina, who died in 1987 at the age of 83. She was always telling me and reminding me of the dangers of making a marriage vow that I would not fulfill.
My usual reply to women who tempted me with the question of whether I would marry them or not was: “Let us allow God to decide. If it is will of God that we’ll marry, so be it!”
I was always very careful on issues like that.
Because of my safety tactics, I never fell in trouble with any woman. This explains why they were always happy to go their own way whenever it was glaring to them that we might no longer continue with our relationship.
This also explains why all the women I dated before my marriage to Victoria are still my friends, even when we are now parents and grandparents. They are always happy and free to talk to me, whenever we meet, because of the friendly way we parted ways.
So, my dear brother/sister, try as much as possible not to promise a woman or a man marriage which you’re not sure to fulfill or which you know, in your hearts of heart, that you’re not ready to keep. Please, don’t do that. Doing so is tantamount to obtaining a visa to hell.
Don’t be too hasty about making a marriage vow to any woman or man, no matter how hard you may be tempted or how late you may think you are to marriage.
Allow your marriage promise to be inspired by God. If you give God the opportunity to inspire your marriage the way He did mine, you will never experience any of the above misfortunes nor regret your marriage.
6 Major Dangers Of Breach Of A Marriage Promise: A Cataclysmic Timed-Bomb. THE END.
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