3 Reasons Every Man Must Help His Wife With Some Chores At Home – Part 3 is the third and final part of this series. enjoy it!
4. Helping Your Wife At Home Helps To Preserve Her Precious Life
As I was preparing to go to leave my house in Aguda, Surulere, Lagos for Alaba-Suru Market one day in 1997, one of my acquaintances, who was in my house, tried to discourage me.
Said he: “Your wife is just two years old in your house and you want to be going to market for her. How long would you do this? I am saying all this because I know how ungrateful women can be. For me, I can never condescend so low as to go to the market for my wife, clean the house or cook for everybody in the house to eat. It is her job and her job alone.”
After listening to his preaching, I thanked him for his advice, but still went to the market. I simply took a canoe that crosses people from my street to somewhere in Orile-Iganmu. From there, I boarded a bus to Orile Iganmu Bus-stop and then another bus to Alaba-Suru Market, where I did my shopping.
I was disappointed at my acquaintance because he was far older than I was and already a family of four; him, his wife and their two daughters.
But guess what! A few months after that advice, by my acquaintance, his wife took ill and was admitted at the Lagos University Teaching Hospital, LUTH, Idi-Araba, Surulere, Lagos. A few days after that, his little daughters caught measles at the same time.
While on a sympathetic visit to his house, in the company of one of his brothers, we met him attending to his sick daughters, after which he planned go to LUTH to see his sick wife. That was his assignment every day for the five weeks that his wife spent at LUTH.
In the course of the discussion I had with my acquaintance and his brother that morning, he disclosed to us, the cause of his wife’s ailment. According to him, his wife was diagnosed of what a layman calls acute stress, resulting from over-work. The way he spoke that morning showed that he had been humbled by his wife’s condition.
Can you see how a man who swore never to help his wife with housework did all the work he had earlier boasted that he would never do? Is this not a confirmation of “Pride goes before a fall” proverb? Did he not go back to his vomit?
It might interest you to know that most men are like him. They leave all the work in the house for their wives to do only to cry to God for help when their wives break down with ill-health.
The question I have for such men is: why would you wait for your wife to break down as a result of stress resulting from too much work before deciding to assist her? What would be your defence in the presence of God if your wife dies from too much while you go about enjoying yourself?
If you’re already married, please, make it part of duty to assist your wife at home. If you’re yet to marry, please, pray to god to give you the courage to assist your wife with chores.
If you cannot help your wife personally as Des-Dokubo Dennis and I do, get her a house-help. Do not care what other people might say concerning how you assist your wife because if anything goes wrong with her health, it is you who would suffer the consequence.
The best those busybodies can do for you, when something goes wrong with your wife’s health, is only to sympathize with you. Would sympathy alone cure or heal your wife?
Again, as a man, never you accept some funny advice from some of your relations, friends or colleagues, concerning how you help your wife at home. Do you know why? Because some of them would do everything for their wives at home, including washing their undies, and go outside their houses to preach the opposite.
Let me repeat myself in this last part, 3 Reasons Every Man Must Help His Wife With Chores At Home – Part 3, of my story: If you feel that your housework is too dirty or demeaning for your personality or that you don’t have the time to assist your wife in doing them, please, get her a maid.
Such maid, however, must not be the one that would snatch you away from your wife. Lol.
If you refuse to assist your wife directly and still refuses to get a maid for her, especially when it is within your financial power to do so, then be ready to live with whatever consequence that may result from her overworking herself.
May that not be your portion in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen!
Those who have ears let them hear!
THE END
NB: Please, make sure you read Part 1 and Part 2 of this article, 3 Reasons Every Man Must Help His Wife With Chores At Home.
