The first part of today’s story, 3 Reasons Every Man Must Help His Wife With Chores At Home – Part 2, was published on this blog a week ago. Have you read it? If no, please, do so in order for you to understand and enjoy this second part.
2. Marriage Is A Partnership, And Not A Sole Proprietorship Type Of Business
Some men are usually deceived by the bride-price they paid when they married their wives. They equate such price to the price they pay for goods and services they buy in the market.
For men and other people who may not understand what bride-price means, it is part of the formality a man, especially in Nigeria, is expected to perform in the process of his marriage to a woman and not the value of the woman he intends to marry. Is that understood?
Come to think of it, can anybody ever pay for the value of another human being, other than the one that Jesus paid to save us? The answer is NO!
When God created Eve as a helper to Adam, He created a partner and not a maid, as some men erroneously believe. As partners therefore, every man must, I repeat, must always see his wife as his partner, with whom he’s expected to share everything in common; sufferings, misfortunes and blessings.
Interestingly, some men only see their wives as partners when they need a financial support, and after that, ‘to your tent o Israel.’ This is very wrong and has to be stopped by men who practise it.
3. God Expects Every Man To Share His Housework With His Wife
God, of a truth, expects every woman to be loyal and submissive to his husband (Ephesians 5: 22-24) and every man to love his wife in return (Ephesians 5: 25-28).
Most men, including Christians, usually misunderstand this portion of the Bible. They limit it to love in the bed. No, it isn’t!
What this section of the Bible is talking about is that every man must identify with his wife in all things, as well as do everything that would make his wife happy and their home peaceful at all times. It is in exchange of this that his wife is expected to be loyal and submissive to him.
Do we expect God to say: “Every man must assist his wife in sweeping the house?” Or, “Every man must help his wife to shop and to cook?” Since He mentioned ‘love’, that covers everything, because love is the central pillar of life generally, including marriage.
If a man refuses to love his wife completely, including helping her with the chores, would you be surprised if his wife decides or refuses to love him back I, personally, won’t be surprised!
So, hear me and hear me clearly: God has ordered all men to love their wives without limit, except in disobeying God. Any man who refuses or who chooses to disobey this order from God MUST NOT, I repeat, MUST NOT expect his wife to be loyal and submissive to him, unless he, in the alternative, decides to provide her with a house-help. QED!
However, any man who helps his wife at home, as Des-Dokubo Dennis and I do, and fails to enjoy the loyalty and submissiveness of his wife, should pray for her to turn a new leaf, and thereafter, leave the matter to God to handle.
Retaliation won’t do such man any good. In short, retaliation would spoil his case ‘in the court of God.’
The last and final part of this story, 3 Reasons Every Man Must Help His Wife With Chores At Home – Part 2, will come your way next week.
See you then!
…to be continued
